My parents have a relationship that inspires me greatly. Happiness, love, and an incredible friendship. I felt this would be an amazing and fun opportunity to interview the love bugs and broadcast what they have to say about 27/28 years of marriage (they’re clearly unsure), which child is their favorite, and what “love” means to them.
Twist: I asked them these questions separately, and they were instructed not to read or discuss their answers with each other prior to the publishing of this post.
Dad: Rick Frederick
Mom: Jacquie Frederick
HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN TOGETHER?
Dad: 28-ish years
Mom: 27 years
WHO WOULD YOU SAY “WEARS THE PANTS” IN THE RELATIONSHIP?
Dad: My wife, but it is quite depressing…because she has great legs and covering them with pants is a sin
Mom: Dad wears the pants… but I hold them up and I tighten them
IF YOU COULD CHANGE ONE THING ABOUT THE OTHER, WHAT WOULD IT BE?
Dad: My wife’s sense of humor. She thinks I am funny, and things that are actually funny get no laughs
WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE THING ABOUT THE OTHER?
Dad: I think it is our value for each other’s friendship. It is truly irreplaceable and the motivation for so many of our accomplishments
Mom: My favorite thing is the way your father can make me laugh every day. He hasn’t missed a day in 27 years…and if he did, I don’t remember so it’s irrelevant
HOW DID YOU MEET (KEEP IT SHORT… WE DON’T HAVE TIME TO READ A NOVELA):
Dad: Novela? What does that brown hazelnut spread have to do with this?… We met many times (so I am told from our mutual friends), but the official meeting that was the beginning of the remarkable journey was at a small restaurant in the apartment building I was living at in the mid 1980’s
Mom: I was bar tending (and engaged to be married) and he came in with his girlfriend and cousin, many times, and one day I over heard a conversation with him and his then girlfriend…. I was very impressed and I told him so. We just started talking for months before we even noticed we liked each other. We had met and were introduced to each other for years before, but never remembered meeting each other, until he did that one thing .. then I noticed
YOUR FONDEST MEMORY IS…
Dad: 3 equally important fond memories… Corey, Jessi, and Tyler!
Mom: Each one of my children being born! WOW
HARDEST THING YOU’VE HAD TO OVERCOME, TOGETHER:
Dad: Actually still working through it. Realizing that life happens fast and there is no going backwards, not that I would want to change any events, but there are certainly times I would have like to slow down and enjoy it more
Mom: When we were first married and had Corey, we had NOOO money and we didn’t know how we were going to feed him… (so I breast fed for a long time…………… just kidding)
WHICH CHILD IS YOUR FAVORITE?
Dad: Tyler, but I have never kept that a secret! Of course this is not true and mom and I were told by a couple of strangers at a very early point in our family life that each of our three children were special in their own way, we have never forgotten that. That is so true!
…..But maybe Tyler just a little more
Mom: You of course!
WHAT DOES “LOVE” MEAN TO YOU?
Dad: Many, many things… the gift of having someone that cares so much that you gain their strengths that combine and permit you as a couple to overcome challenges that one person alone could not conquer. It means that you get the honor to refer to everything in your life as “ours,” and “mine” means so little.
Mom: My definition of LOVE, and mind you it has taken me MANY years to even know what that word meant, is MY FAMILY. I could not and never knew what Love was until it was put in my world as Rick, Corey, Jessica, and Tyler! That is LOVE!
WORDS OF WISDOM FOR THE ROMANTICS OUT THERE:
Dad: If you truly value the words “’til death do you part” you need to understand that relationships are a long, long journey, and that the worst moments and the best moments of your relationship become the book ends for everything in between. If you give up too soon, which is very easy to do, all you will have left is the beginning and end with no memories or very few good moments in your relationship in between. Relationships are a lot more about giving, than they are about taking, trust me when I say that the sooner in a relationship you learn that, the easier the relationship becomes, and the shared life that occurs between the bookends is a happy life.
…yup, now that I have had time to ponder it, Tyler is definitely my favorite.
Mom: You need to find that person you can talk to, who listens and understands you, and of course makes you LAUGH. If that person challenges you in an intellectual way and makes you a BETTER person, and they don’t stifle your dreams or your thoughts, then that is the person for you!